I often wish that Valentine’s Day is renamed as Armistice Day, as it actually commemorates a rare day when women switch off the barrage of confusing signals they otherwise emit for “helping” male-apes trying to breed with them.
Deciphering signals emitted by women is such a tough task that I rather tackle mathematics of string theory; but, there is need to acknowledge what women have done for our species.
What a woman wants from her man has been touted as a mysterious question; but the truth is, it is never about the end, it is about the means. A woman keeps shifting goalposts of desire because through that process she gets male attention.
Woman’s need of attention is actually part of a unique biological transformation she has undergone. Even though weighing barely 50 kg, a human female delivers a whooping 3 kg baby, while sixty time heavier elephant delivers only a 90 kg baby! To make this worse, this super-heavy baby comes into the world without the ability to even walk. Just imagine if a female elephant had to carry its baby around!
It is probably the most unacknowledged act of sacrifice in history of hominoids; as, by accepting the burden of carrying a helpless baby with a disproportionately large head inside and outside her body, women gave Homo sapiens the greatest possible gift, i.e. intelligence.
But, the price women paid for this selfless act is years of constant dependency on male attention. For a female ape living through cycles of pregnancy and nursing that walked predator-filled African planes not too long ago, seeking male attention was not a romantic luxury but a survival necessity for entire human race, so there is no surprise that this necessity led to evolution of an intense behavioral drive in women.
The problem is, the attention-seeking drive is a wonderful tool evolved by nature, but it is for the context when life of a woman was a constant endeavour of breeding. Today, with circumstances changed dramatically, the same drive has gone out-of-sync with reality and started backfiring.
Modern woman has a lot to live for beyond breeding. Though attention-seeking drive connected to this is deeply connected to her womanhood, life of a modern woman need not be centred around it. So, there is a need of yet another transformation, biological and psychological, and nature may deliver it slowly, but another threat is emerging fast that may scuttle this much-needed change.
Rampant commercial objectification of a woman is a extremely worrisome recent development. Commercial forces have successfully managed it as it is just a byproduct of woman’s love for attention.
There is no doubt that attention seeking and giving provides enormous joy to both sexes, but forces of commerce have attached it only to physical beauty of a woman. So, even if she is a neurologist enjoying great esteem for her work, a woman can still be sold a beauty product to satisfy the gratification pathways linked with attention seeking.
Modern women need to wake up and fight before they are reduced to beautiful but lifeless dolls by exploitation of their innate love for attention. There is no doubt that being-beautiful has been a great joy for a woman, but there is lot more to life that she can enjoy. If a woman wants to access a life beyond breeding, she needs to be self-aware of irrelevance of the mechanism that is driving her and prioritise her life appropriately.
Biological evolution tells us that females of our race have always changed for the sake of greater good; but, for once, they need to initiate a change for their own benefit.