How much money you would like to have for not having a father/mother?

As social media is getting flooded with Mother’s Day posts, I am tempted to ask an uncomfortable question posed by modern science that may transform the very institution of motherhood in near future.

There is no doubt that we are moving into an era of scientific advancements that will allow us to change some of the most fundamental rules of life on Earth. With choices at hand, humanity is entitled to a transformation, but there is a strong possibility that wrong choices may take us down a path of self-destruction, so we need to think.

While motherhood is cherished for a day today, there is a clear shift amongst young people to look at life with a different set of priorities. Being a parent through conventional and cumbersome route of marriage and pregnancy isn’t really well designed to suit modern lifestyle of a busy and successful man or a woman. And yet, the innate parental drive tempts such busy people to look for alternate solutions to fulfil this fundamental biological urge.

At the (not so) benign end of the spectrum of solution is dogs and cats waiting at home for mama and papa, but as they are not really able to fully satisfy the parental instinct, so a demand has appeared in the market that is driven by some of the richest and most influential people.

As a market appeared for supplying readymade parenthood sans the trouble of marriage and pregnancy, a technology also appeared on the horizon in from of surrogacy that has established itself amongst us before it was questioned thoroughly at a fundamental human level.

Today science can manufacture a child for a rich and successful man/woman by combining his/her DNA with that of another individual by placing a fertilised egg in womb of a third party.

It is a triumph of science over nature as an ancient mechanism of life is hacked and can be used to satisfy a biological demand of a person without due biological process.

This achievement is considered a blessing, and rightly so in a case where two married people, who were unable to exercise their natural right to parenthood due to some medical problems, as they can have their own biological children using a surrogate womb.

But, it is really fair to use it without discretion?

The core question of jurisprudence of surrogacy is, if right to parenthood is fundamental, isn’t the right of a child to have its both biological parents more fundamental?

On this Mother’s Day, let us answer this human question. Can anyone deny a child a right to have a mother just because he is rich enough to afford surrogacy and become a single parent?

As Bollywood has charted the way, the world is fawning over cute kids of famous movie personalities. There is obviously a reason to feel envious of these fortunate kids born with a golden spoon. As the single parent can afford to have them without getting into liabilities of having a mother for them, why not?

The intellectual or logical answer to the why-not may not be easy to find, but to answer it as a human being may not be that difficult, provided you allow emotions you have reserved for this day to help you decide.

Mother is not an expandable appendage. She is an existential requirement of a man-child. Humans are different than all other animals as they are born incomplete.

Born as helpless large-headed lumps, humans need to grow outside the mother’s physical womb, so mother is designed to love her child to death and provide it with a psychological womb for next six years.

A mother in case of a human being is a core psychological requirement for brain to grow. So, unless the fate has dealt a cruel blow, taking a natural mother away from a child is an act of inflicting an unresolvable trauma on a person.

Biology has conspired really hard to make the thankless relationship between mother and child to work, so it forges a chemical and thus irreplaceable bond between the two at the birth. As natural mother of a child and child are tied together through a very physical chemical bond, ripping of which causes a deep psychological wound that no amount of money can heal.

Surrogacy practiced by effluent single individuals executing their right to parenthood is celebrated, as it is not recognised that it comes with a human cost for the child.

A child brought into the world by a single parent has no choice in this matter, as its right to mother is extinguished by technology purchased through wealth. But, given a choice the child may have an answer that you too can find out.

What would be the amount of wealth and fame you would like to inherit as a compensation for not having a mother?

I am happy to admit that I have managed surviving till now with minimum effort as all my intellect has be used to avoid doing anything meaningful. As I needed to while all the free time I generated in course of being lazy, science has been my favorite muse that I have enjoyed company of. As an effort to kill time (in a way, to get even with it) one fine day I decided to write a science column, more for my personal amusement than to attract readers. After getting educated about the attention span of modern readers from my editor, it became more like a challenge to tackle esoteric subjects in 600 words that I have managed to remain interested in for more than a year now. I do not want to add my worldly profile here as these are ideas that need to be considered only on the merits they carry and not as an opinion of a certain human being.

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