Mommies and daddies! Let us stop fearing our kids!

There is a change in the air and it is scaring me.

As parents, we are the first generation in history of humanity to fear our kids, and lot worse, we fear them because we believe that they are smarter, and they understand the future heading their way better than us.

Kids have sensed our fear and they are capitalising on it. While we also had a faint inkling that we know better than our parents, these kids are super-confident about it because we are helping them feel that way.

As parents, we are amazed by the way technology, that too built by the kids, is changing the world.

Just as we struggle painfully to learn how to change font colour in a WhatsApp message, our kids eat dinner with right hand while flipping through tasteless stand-up humor on YouTube with left hand and sharing a boomerang video simultaneously with a friend they are chatting with.

The net outcome of our technologically-challenged-ness and our adulation for what our kids are doing with “computers” is that we feel that we have nothing to teach to a generation heading into a brave new world that we can’t understand.

Kids live in a world where old people have no chance to throw their weight around. If a old man/woman dare to show dissent towards the deities of youth in social media world where most social interactions take place, he/she would face a barrage of expletives and a lecture on being a medieval person unfit to live.

As no old person would have energy to engage and tolerate insults, today the only way gen-past is finding a internal clouser is through believing that kids know better, or that they will learn when reality strikes them.

It is a moment of reckoning for humanity.

On one side are parents, who have lived and data-crunched “real” reality to figure out how things work, and on the other are kids who are imagining reality inside their heads and are presuming that they have the power to work everything out inside their heads.

Till now, humanity had found a balance. Experience was valued by those beholding it, making them self-righteous. As a counter, nature had gifted youth with rebellious temperament to prevent them to getting overwhelmed by the learning from the past.

The humanity had best of both worlds as old and young disagreed, but old still tried hard to prevail.

Unfortunately, it is no longer true. Today, gen-past and gen-next are on the same page, i.e. the kids know better. So, gen-past has almost given up, and humanity may pay dearly for it.

Let us understand our kids imaginary reality a bit better through a disturbing example.

Just a generation back, teenagers could explore sex through stolen kisses and romanticise them for decades; but a modern kid can open a pornography website with one click and explore sex in forms that are impossible to list here.

But, if an old person, based on his experience, even mildly question impact of this paradigm shift, youth will rise in unison to resist it as an attack on their freedom. They will confirm that it has no impact on their psychology. And they would be absolutely sure about being right. They would be so convinced by their own imaginary wisdom that they will abuse and successfully cyber-lynch a person who disagrees because the old person would be a lone voice easy to squash.

The unrestrained expression of anger by youth has put gen-past on back-foot, and most of us can’t understand how to deal with it, so most parents have taken the easy way out of avoidance.

But, is it justified that our generation shirks from its natural duty?

It is impossible for the kids to stop doing what they are doing, because they are designed by nature to rebel and resist. So, if the baton of legacy and learning needs to be passed across generations, the onus is completely on parents. We need to wake up and act.

There is one advantage the kids of this generation have. They are smart and better connected to extremely powerful mediums of communications that they use actively. So, the parents need to take advantage of the situation and reach out.

Parents need to stop fearing insults and abuses. It is a price we will have to pay for the sake of our kids and their future. We need to enter the spaces where our kids are hiding and force-engage. It is hard to get past the insults and idiocies and remain patient, but we need take that pain, as situation is dire.

So, if you are a mom and your son asks you to shut up because you don’t know anything about how to choose friends, instead of becoming silent out of fear of more insult, continue telling him what you have learned from your life.

If you are a dad and your daughter tells you about how India is a horrible nation of rapists, tell her about the peaceful life you have spent here, instead of fearing her disagreement and letting her consolidate her generalisation into a imaginary reality.

If you are made from tougher material, go to social media platforms and voice your concerns and share your experiences even if you encounter abject rudeness. Gulp down your anger and stick to being patient. Carry on conversations by overlooking insults. If old voices can come together, they may fare a lot better, as social media is the new mob where numbers matter.

The time has come that we, as a gen-past with duty to pass wisdom, rise to fulfill our natural role. Let us not take the easy way out of avoiding confrontations for our personal comfort.

These are our kids and we have a serious job to do.

I am happy to admit that I have managed surviving till now with minimum effort as all my intellect has be used to avoid doing anything meaningful. As I needed to while all the free time I generated in course of being lazy, science has been my favorite muse that I have enjoyed company of. As an effort to kill time (in a way, to get even with it) one fine day I decided to write a science column, more for my personal amusement than to attract readers. After getting educated about the attention span of modern readers from my editor, it became more like a challenge to tackle esoteric subjects in 600 words that I have managed to remain interested in for more than a year now. I do not want to add my worldly profile here as these are ideas that need to be considered only on the merits they carry and not as an opinion of a certain human being.

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